Dancers don’t wear sweaters.

I love dancing.

I mean, I really, really love it. (Hence the second post on said topic in one month.) To this day I bless my mother for deciding ballroom dancing lessons would be a healthy and productive social outlet for her teenage daughters. I’ll never forget my first round of swing dance lessons in New Jersey. There were eight or nine of us teenagers, and we all slouched onto the roller skating rink-turned-dance-floor once a week and did our best to pound out the steps as the instructors called them. By now I’ve got a pretty solid background in swing (East Coast), with waltz, cha cha, and even a little bit of tango and fox trot thrown in…at least enough that I can toe my way around the floor without seriously injuring myself, my partner, or anyone else. But my roommate has been slowly introducing me to a new ballroom dance (really, a whole new culture of ballroom dancing): salsa.

Okay, so I’m really bad at salsa. They’ve probably started passing around flyers with my face on them at the club where we sometimes go, just to warn other dancers to keep away. Last week I put a whole slew of fellows through the ringer with my ineptitude. There was the poor little Asian man who kept glaring wildly at the ceiling and crying, in the tone of one coming head-to-head with an existential crisis, “Something is not right!” Or the burly guy in jeans who finally dropped my hands and said, “Fine, I’ll dance to your rhythm.” Or the suave black dancer who grinned at me smugly and said, “You’re a beginner.” I chose not to mention my ten years of swing dancing experience and only nodded. To which he replied, “I can tell. Dancers don’t wear sweaters.” (A reference to the cardigan I had on over my sleeveless shirt, because…gosh, I dunno, it was 15 degrees outside and I was cold.)

That aside, I love the way dancing presents so many opportunities for…charity. I mean, let’s face it, you’re going to run through a wide variety of partners, some good, some okay, some just plain bad, and it’s tempting to roll your eyes, or comment, or leave the dance floor before the end of the song when the other person and you just aren’t working out. I’m so grateful for the good dancers who simply laugh with me at my fumbles and mistakes and offer kind, practical tips on how to improve. And because I’m determined to have a good time, I bite my tongue and say nothing when I encounter the ruder sorts like those mentioned above. In the same vein, I danced my fair share with men who simply (*cough*) weren’t very good. But you know, that was okay too. I appreciate them trying, and even more, asking me to dance at all. It’s a give and take. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, but you should both walk away with your dignity intact.

Still, after a few weeks of bumbling my way through Latin dances, I can’t wait to drag my roommate (and anyone else who’ll come along) out to Glen Echo for a night of good old-fashioned swing.


2 thoughts on “Dancers don’t wear sweaters.

  1. Bring me with when you go to Glen Echo! I love it there and I am totally with ya and I love Swing. I stink at Salsa; I was able to do it well once and I had an amazing partner who was a great leader….otherwise I have gotten a lot of similar comments from guys when trying to Salsa.

  2. I love my wife who thinks I’m a great dancer and can’t wait for our next ‘opportunity.’ I’m not all that good, but she thinks I am and for this, I am grateful. I’ve taken a grand total of six, one hour, dance classes. I do not count the tap-dance classes when I was three…

    Dancing is fun, and you’re right, an excellent opportunity to practice charity!

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